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SPECIAL GUEST: Kate Stenlake, S is for... Special Needs


Kate Stenlake. My Mum.


She's funny my Mum. Funny haha, and funny peculiar. Like a lot of people, she was raised to speak when spoken to. So, given that my Mum and I have the relationship we do, I know full well that she's been reading my blog, but she won't necessarily comment on it to me. She'll tell me to my face that I need to stop swearing as much as I do. Wait for it, wait for it....piss off Mum! Love you xxx Those of you that know me, will know I've toned down my swearing for today. Out of respect - some of my Mum's friends will probably read this and you know, she doesn't need me saying words like fuck or twat today.


But yeah, she doesn't always voice her opinion, because as we all know, you'll possibly get a massive backlash from all the Social Justice Warriors of the world. Which can be a massive drama that sometimes you don't need. SJW, learnt that this week. Didn't know what SJW was until like, Tuesday? But since she doesn't always voice her opinion, because of those reasons, I figured I'd ask her to write something. One, because something inside me told me to ask her. Two, because I want her to be a part of what I do. Three, because it means I can have a day off from writing. But I end up waffling on anyway, so don't really have a day off from it. Four, probably because subconsciously it meant I wasn't doing this on my own. Not that I mind doing it on my own. I will always do the majority of this on my own. But you know your Mum has always got your back. No matter what. Stupid Mum's. Five, because despite her being bat-shit crazy some of the time, she is a very clever lady. I mean it, she can walk the walk and talk the talk when it comes to this subject. So I think it's important for her to say what she has to say. Even if I have to encourage her to say it.


She has a:


Degree in Special Education from Open University/Plymouth University

Diploma in Criminology

Diploma in Forensic Psychology

Diploma in Body Language

Diploma in Counselling

Diploma in Child Psychology

Diploma in Mental Health Care


and worked in the Special Needs environment for 12 years.


What she needs to do is calm the fuck down(couldn't help myself, sorry - even in the proof read I can't bring myself to delete the swearing - somethings just need to be said.) She needs to chill and have a cup of tea. Trouble is, like all Mums, she really needs to be kept busy. Because if she isn't busy, she gets bored, and when Mums get bored. They revert to...Mum-mode :S


So....I kept her busy....


S is for Special Needs......

(Kate Stenlake)


Everyone has a special need, whether it be that you need to sit by a window, have your pencil sharp or stir your tea in a certain direction; the list can go on.

People generally look down on people with special needs, they believe them to be of lower intelligence. This is not necessarily true; people with high IQ can also have a special need as they can often have little common sense.

Having worked with people with Special Needs I can honestly say that I learnt an awful lot about life from them and how everyone can learn to be more open, accepting and honest. Life can be very cruel when a person is labelled with a Special Need. Often the professionals will talk over them and discuss the person completely unaware that the person they are discussing understands the conversation.

Every person has something to offer in this world. We are not all meant to be a rocket scientists, solicitors or computer programmers. Even university graduates can often change direction from their chosen degree when they realise that some jobs are not fulfilling. I was brought up to be open minded, that all people are important, to treat everyone with respect, that no one is more important than another, that the ‘boss’ can sweep the floor too; a lesson we can all benefit from.




The 'oop's was more because I sent it to her rather than me. Need to get it on the desktop dunnaye to upload it on to this here blog.


Who doesn't love a good quote?


"Some of the most wonderful people are the ones who don’t fit into boxes." - Tori Amos


"My needs aren’t special, how my needs Want to add a caption to this image? Click the Settings icon. are met may be different but they are the same needs as everyone else’s." - Anon


"I don’t think the worst thing that could happen to me is raising a child with special needs. I think the worst thing is to raise a child who is cruel to people with special needs." - Anon


Songs to listen to now:


You're Something Special to Me - George Strait Midnight Special - Creedence Clearwater Revival Your Own Special Way - Genesis These Are Special Times - Christina Aguilera

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